The lovely Lisa Foster, a friend of Pink Frosting and a much-loved wedding celebrant, just posted a really interesting comment about my post this morning, The Unity Sand Ceremony – Making it Work. Lisa’s had many couples use the sand ceremony as part of their wedding day, so I thought it would be really enjoyable and informative for you to read her thoughts on how to make it work for you.
I have had several couples and families perform the sand ceremony during a wedding or a naming ceremony- they are especially drawn to the meaning behind it and welcome the chance to involve their children or families in the ceremony.
For marriages – the sand represents our word and once our word is given it cannot be taken back, such as the sand, once combined, cannot be seperated.
To involve families during a wedding ceremony, sand is poured by the bride and groom and by their parents to demonstrate the importance of family life and involve them in the ceremony.
Colours can be chosen based on personal preference, or to represent certain qualities
- White: Purity, spiritual values, devotion
- Yellow: Harmony, balance, friendship
- Pink or Red: Love, passion, romance, happiness
- Green: Health, luck, prosperity
- Purple: Power, dignity, strength
- Brown: Nurturing, home and hearth
- Blue: Patience, tranquility, longevity
- Silver: Creativity, talents, inspiration
for example – but several can be found on the internet or the library
For naming ceremonies, the sand can symbolise all members of the family and the unique qualities that each person brings to the family – and that even though combined – the individual colours are still visible emphasizing the individuals which, when together make up the family unit.
In one naming ceremony I’ve had one family use the sand ceremony to honour the child’s 4 godparents so that the child may always be reminded of their presence and support in their life.
Sand ceremonies are preferable to a candle lighting ceremony for showing unity in an outdoor wedding as the candle can not blow out – a simple paper funnel may be made to prevent sand blowing away whilst pouring.
The sand ceremony also is wonderful in a visual way both to keep at home and to add colour and variety to a ceremony – people can look at something different going on within the ceremony and it makes the ceremony a little more active.